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D2 The Pittsburgh Press Friday, July 19, 198b How to react to onetime apple of your eye THE KIRISEY REPORT By Dr. June Reinisch MISS MANNERS By Judith Martin why a sensible husband feigns ignorance or unconcern, just as you suggest. The only proper posture for you is that of disappointed suitor rendered philosophical by the passage of time, wistful is exactly it. It is a mistake to spell out just how much or how little disappointment you received, and your sample explanation is wrong because it suggests you abandoned her. All you need is a slightly sad air of regret, along with the kindly posture of caring more for the lady's present happiness in marriage, than for your own loss.

(Miss Manners cannot answer individual letters but will answer those of interest in future columns. Ad-' dress your etiquette questions to Miss Manners, Box 776, The Pitts-' burgh Press, Pittsburgh, Pa. 15230.) DEAR DR. REINISCH: Last fall I was diagnosed as having a primary herpes infection; I was two months pregnant at the time. The doctor tried to give me codeine for the pain, which I refused because of the was given no information about complications.

I miscarried at 20 weeks of pregnancy. I have since read that most doctors recommend an abortion for a woman who has a primary herpes infection during pregnancy. Why don't doctors do a better job of educating their pregnant patients about herpes? REPLY: Most doctors try to keep up with current information about herpes and pass it along to their patients. Unfortunately, there are few research findings about herpes and pregnancy available and even experts disagree about how best to manage the situation. Moreover, there is no conclusive research to support recommending abortion for all pregnancies during which a woman exhibits a first or primary herpes simplex virus infection.

There are known risks associated with having an HSV infection during pregnancy. The spontaneous abortion rate for women with a primary infection may be as high as 50 percent (and 25 percent for those with a recurrent HSV infection) as compared with a 10 percent rate for spontaneous abortions in general. Some studies have found the rate of; premature births also increases from 17 percent without HSV to 35 percent in the presence of a primary HSV infection. Recent studies showed that women with recurrent HSV had no greater risk of premature delivery than did women without HSV. Even though neonatal herpes is a deadly disease, the estimated frequency of neonatal HSV in the United States is about 500 cases a year, and most of those cases are thought to be transmitted to the infant as it passes through the birth canal.

That is why experts now recommend careful monitoring of women with a Pap from page Dl cians," Bibbo said. For 10 years, researchers at the University of Chicago have worked to develop a computerized system that would automatically read Pap smears, taking human variation out of interpreting them. Those efforts have met some success in that a system has been built and it works. The system isn't economically feasible, Dr. Bibbo said, because 12 percent of the time it identifies a problem where none exists, requiring such a high rate of human intervention that it is cheaper to hire a lab person to do the work than to use a computer.

It is hoped that through use of a laser microscope, problems with the system may be solved so that such false positive results will be reduced to a manageably low level. Another aspect of computerization, set for testing on human tissue samples later this summer, uses an IBM personal computer tied to a color video camera and a visible light microscope to examine the genetic material in abnormal cells. By determining if the genetic material or DNA in abnormal cells is also abnormal and the extent of the abnormality, physicians can predict terms with your ex-apple, as it were, Miss Manners presumes that everyone concerned has come to a comfortable accommodation with the past, and that none of you is eager to try for a different future. There is, indeed, a standard of behavior for this, and it should be followed regardless of the particular facts of the case. The unlikelihood of this "old Dl and Eide's sell them for $1.49, Jim's for $1.50, for $1.59, Stedeford's for $1.65 or three for $5 including tax, and Record-Rama for $1.69 or four for $6.

Another reason the independent shops survive is that many of them buy and sell used records. Depending on which retailer you talk to, however, it is or isn't a significant factor. "It might have been the thing when we first opened," says Record Graveyard's Petruzzi. "Now it's about half and half new and used. There's a huge profit in used albums.

You can buy them for $1 and sell them for $3 or $4 (some at Record Graveyard cost as little as 50 cents or three for $1), but it's tough to get them. You have to rely on people bringing them in." When Jim's Records opened, "all we did was used records. We were the only store in the city doing it," Spitznagel says. "Now it's probably 10 percent or less" because other stores do it, too, and because "the market (for used records) isn't that big to begin with." buys and sells used records in Springdale only, says Bill DePew, who owns the shops with his wife, Diane. "It kind of died down because of the budget line (re-releases of older albums with lower list prices).

That does quite well right now. Why pay $3 for a used album when you can get a brand-new one for On the other hand, record department manager Gregg Kostelich estimates that half of Eide's record business (the store also sells old magazines and comic books) is used discs. "People want to get rid of it, clean out their attics. In the spring, we get a lot of it. In the winter, people buy them for presents." And if it weren't for used records, Record-Rama wouldn't have nearly as many selections as it does.

Ma-whinney buys, sells and swaps them and says they're "very, very important. That's how you acquire a lot of out-of-print recordings." Another factor is that most independent record shops sell unusual, even rare, items the larger stores don't. And some of those records command princely prices. Unusual items are Mawhinney's stock in trade. He has about 1,500 Christmas albums, around 2,000 comedy albums and more than 2,000 polka albums and copies of Elvis Presley's "Baby Let's Play House" on the Sun label, which is worth between $400 and $500.

Stedeford's, says manager Ronnie Leist, has a lot of dance mix records that appeal to mobile disc jockeys and some collectors' items. He re beau" scenario matching the real events is the best argument of all against revealing what did happen or in favor of keeping up the pretense that it didn't, even when everyone present knows better. You can hardly expect a husband calmly to entertain a man whom his wife shows she has preferred to him or one who admits to having rejected the lady he himself married. That is cently sold a copy of "My Dearest Darling," a 1953 release by the Five Willows on the long-defunct Allen label, for $160. Eide's, which has been in business for 13 years, sells "records a lot of other people don't want to carry," says Kostelich.

"We have a lot of imports, stuff not ordinarily available in America." DePew says, stocks "deep catalog" (older albums by currently popular artists) and "hard-to-find things. You can buy the hits anywhere, but by carrying deep catalog, imports, oldies, that's what's helped us grow." Spitznagel says the biggest reason he's still in business is because he specializes in imports, independent releases and out-of-print records. "If you have the stuff that's not in a National Record Mart-type store, the people who want it will find you. There seems to be a network of record collectors." For example, he sells "The Best of the Hollies': for $15. And a 12-inch EP (extended play record) by a British group called Joy Division, which disbanded in the early '80s, recently sold for $50.

There's "a lot of risk" in selling imports, though, Petruzzi says, "unless you know what you're buying. The return policy (allowing retailers to return unsold records to the manufacturer) isn't as good, and they're a lot more expensive (than domestic records)." Some independent merchants try other tacks to attract customers. They sell buttons, books, guitar strings, posters, compact discs and videocassettes in addition to records. fills special orders as best it can. Buy 15 albums in a year's time (be sure to save your receipts) and Stedeford's will give you one free.

Says Leist, "It's one way we take care of our steady customers, and it also makes people steady customers." For a $25 annual membership fee, Mawhinney will rent you records and videos for $2 apiece (Wednesday is half-price day) and offers a free rental for each paid one. And if you buy an album released after last Oct. 4 (he can't rent them because of revised federal copyright laws) and find you don't like it, he'll buy it back within 30 days for $4. Those he sells and guarantees for $5.88. Lower prices, buying and selling used records, stocking oddball discs and related paraphernalia, buy-one-get-one ploys independent record retailers try them all to combat primary infection or a history of recurrent HSV infections.

The vast majority of women will deliver healthy babies. Pregnant women with a primary infection need to know they have an increased risk of spontaneous abortion and may have an early delivery. Women with primary infection or a history of HSV recurrence need to be monitored carefully to determine if there's a chance of active virus in the birth canal. This means complete virological or cytological monitoring beginning at week 32 of the pregnancy with weekly cultures or smears until delivery. Vaginal delivery is considered safe for women with no evidence of lesions or viral shedding and negative tests.

The presence of a lesion or sore, or evidence of viral shedding without a lesion, means a Caesarean delivery is recommended. Mothers with a primary HSV infection late in pregnancy are usually separated from their babies -until the infection clears. Mothers with recurrent HSV are taught special handling and hand-washing procedures to reduce the risk of transmitting HSV to their babies by touching. DEAR DR. REINISCH: What is the chemical composition of semen? REPLY: The chemicals in human ejaculate vary somewhat depending on the man's diet, health and frequency of ejaculation.

The average ejaculation of about 1 teaspoon consists mostly of nitrogen, citric acid, fructose, phosphorylcholine, sodium and chloride. There are smaller amounts of ammonia, ascorbic acid, ash, calcium, carbon dioxide, cholesterol, creatine and many other chemicals Dr. Reinisch is director of the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction, Indiana University-Bloomington.) (Send questions to Dr. Reinisch, Box 776, The Pittsburgh Press, Pittsburgh, Pa. 15230.) how quickly the disease may progress.

This can be important in planning therapy, Dr. Bibbo said. For example, a 22-year-old woman with abnormal tissue may wish to postpone the surgical removal of her womb until after having her family, if that could be done without threatening her life. DNA analysis of her tissue can help a doctor predict if this is feasible. Such analyses have been possible for some time, but they have been Suite time-consuming.

The system iibbo is testing can run such analyses on a personal computer in less than 30 minutes. If testing by Dr. Bibbo and her colleagues proves the system works, it would mean that pathology labs all over the country could install similar systems, making DNA analysis widely available instead of a procedure available only at major research centers. Though its first use was with tissue from Pap smears, the computerized DNA analysis can be used for a tissue from a variety of sites, including prostate tumors, bone lesions, the lungs and thyroid and even some blood samples, Dr. Bibbo said.

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But such tactics aren't cure--alls. Because they are so large, the chains and department stores get new releases directly from the com-'; pany. "They have such a big volume-it's easy for them to get records. We, have to go to the distributor our---' selves," Petruzzi says. "They dot extensive advertising, and we don't really do any advertising.

Advertis-;" ing's expensive, especially radio ad- vertising, so a lot of people might not. even know we're here." District wholesalers cause Eide's Kostelich some hard times. "They're not hip to a certain band and they' pass on it (the record) and we could nave used 50 or 60 copies." Hence he has to order the record from out of town, thus delaying arrival and possibly losing sales. There's no question, however, that independent retailers' biggest problem is record companies themselves. "Not being able to get advertising assistance from the major record labels" is Spitznagel's chief gripe.

"I think it would be there if a small store went after it but not as readily as for a larger store." Unlike Petruzzi, DePew buys his new releases directly from the com- -panies but still thinks "the labels could work with independents a little closer than they do promoting the product (with posters and stand-up displays and by letting the store know when new albums are coming out), especially if you're their customer. "There's a lot of heavy metal out there. We do well with heavy metal, but they don't give us promotional I copies to play in-store and we don't know how to market it. Why should I as a retailer crack open a stock copy of an album? We're willing to work with any of the manufacturers, but we can only sell their product as well as they represent their label." Mawhinney is even more outspo- ken. "We don't get any service from any of the labels at all.

We don't get 1 promotional materials, promotional records. I pick up posters from independent wholesalers when they have them. You have to be first in line. "Nobody comes to see you with new releases. They can't be bothered with single-store operations.

They -don't think we're important." SALLY HANSEN NATURAL COLD WAX HAIR REMOVER Waxes away hair from toes thru bikini area! A 6oz. SC89 Get it for mj less everyday DEAR MISS MANNERS: When one is visiting a married couple, to what lengths should one go not to remind him that she was once the apple of one's eye? Should one modestly take the wistful stance of having loved and lost? For example: "Biff, when I met Yvette, I was still looking for a glass blower like my mother. Anyway, you are a lucky man." Establishing a standard for what a wife should not reveal to her spouse would be, I am sure, futile folly. Do you agree, though, that the husband should feign unconcern, in company, about any regrettable incident in the past? As in: "No, darling, I don't remember your telling me that Chet once tickled a blacksmith. Chet, did you hear how Daniel Webster threw a shoe last year at the 11th jump?" REPLY: As you are on visiting Records from page buy something else at regular price as well.

So why do the independent record shops survive? For several reasons. First, the chains and department stores don't have a monopoly on free parking. It's available, for instance, at Record-Rama, Lou's Music Connection in the Noble Manor Shopping Center, Music Scene in the Crafton-Ingram Shopping Center and at both outlets. In Springdale, there's a municipal lot behind the store; Monroeville store, which opened June 11, is in Loehmann's Plaza. Also, what appears a less-than-choice site to an observer may be just fine with the merchant.

There aren't many parking places, free or otherwise, near Record Graveyard, but because it's about equidistant from the University of Pittsburgh and Carnegie-Mellon University campuses and because it sells a lot of new music, most of its customers are college students, many of whom prefer new music and don't have cars in the first place. "We've always been up here," says manager Jim Petruzzi, "and the owners of the big stores (in the heart of the Oakland shopping district) don't worry about us. We have a regular clientele. We recognize them when they walk in." Jim's Records owner Jim Spitzna-gel is happy to have been on Liberty Avenue in Bloomfield for more than eight years. "The rent isn't real, real high, and we have low overhead.

We store records in fruit crates. We don't have to spend money on making the store look slick. We cater mainly to record collectors and college students who want something off-the-wall. Those people are more relaxed anyway," and don't care that his shop looks more like a rummage sale. And because of his lower-cost location, he says, he can sell currently popular albums with $8.98 list prices for $5.99, which brings up another important reason price, although it's not as big a factor as you might think.

One-record chart albums cost $5.99 at Jim's; $6.29 at 'Record Graveyard; $7.99 tops at between $4.99 and 6.99 at Eide's on Federal Street, North Side; between $5.99 and $7.99 at Stedeford's; and $6.99 or three for $20 at Record-Rama. Regular prices are higher at department stores $6.99 and $7.99 at Gold Circle, $8.48 at Hills and Murphy's Mart, $8.69 and $9.69 at Sears, $8.98 at Kaufmann's and from $8.37 to $10.37 at Zayre but comparable at the chains. National Record Mart has plenty for $6.99 and $7.49, Came-lot's are $7.99, many at Oasis are $5.99 and Record Outlet's range from $5.99 to $9.49. Hills and Murphy's Mart have the lowest price for current singles, $1.48. They're $1.88 at Zayre, $1.85 at Camelot, $1.69 at Record Outlet and Kaufmann's, $1.69 or three for $4.75 at Oasis and $1.79 or three for $5 at National Record Mart.

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